What Our Baby Didn’t Need

What Our Baby Didn't Need

Parenting is probably the most sensitive subjects in our country and the most publicly judged. From what goes in their stomachs to how we decorate the nursery, every decision is criticized from even the most obscure angles. And when we start discussing what our sweet baby’s “need” it gets even more heated. You are taught to feel like less of a parent if you don’t provide everything for your child. That your little one will be at a disadvantage without light-up noisy toys or a mink changing table cover. But when it comes right down to it babies don’t care about these things. And more importantly – they don’t need them.

Now, by all means, if it’s important to you go for it. But don’t think less of yourself if you don’t. There are things babies do need. This post however is all of the things we didn’t buy in the first place for our Pudge, things that were gifted unnecessarily to us, and things we regretted buying.

Refusing to purchase things like this in the first place not only protects your financial security, it teaches your children a healthy relationship to material belongings, helps your family focus on experiences, and protects our planet from unnecessary consumption.

Diapering

  • Disposable diapers and wipes.
  • A diaper pail or liners.
  • Commercial diaper rash cream.
  • Baby powder. Use cornstarch instead.
  • Disposable cloth diaper liners (seriously defeats the purpose of cloth in the first place).
  • Changing table, pad and covers.
  • Portable changing wallet.

Bathing

  • Head shields.
  • Special bath toys.
  • Separate body wash and shampoo.
  • Bathrobe. Cute but not needed.
  • Special baby-sized towels. Save yourself some cash and get standard towels that will last several years.
  • Infant bath tub.
  • “Baby” wash cloths. Regular wash clothes or a soft loofah work fine.

Feeding

  • Nursing bras. I bought nursing tank tops for the same price and saved myself laundry and the cost of clothes I could even nurse in.
  • Pureed Baby foods. Check out Baby-Led Weaning instead.
  • Special baby snacks (stay away from yogurt drops – those things are loaded with added sugar!)
  • Special dishware for baby – I gave him a glass tea cup plate and tea spoon for silverware to practice with. But mostly he eats off a tray with his hands.
  • Bibs. We just got him naked for meals and wiped him down with a washcloth afterwards. The bib really didn’t protect any of his clothes.

Clothing

  • Sleep sacks. These can only be used at bedtime. Save yourself the work, money and time by getting footie pajamas instead. This way if you need to go anywhere you can easily strap your baby into a stroller or car seat without having to wake them up and change their clothes.
  • Shoes
  • Accessories

Gear

  • Bouncer/Rocker. Unnecessary and you can’t leave the room if your baby is in one (Babies have suffocated in them before – read the safety manual if you already have one. They’re really not that helpful).
  • Shopping cart cover
  • Jogging stroller
  • Special “diaper bag”. Get a regular bag that can be used for longer than 2 years of your life.
  • Bassinet. Just get the crib from the get-go. Get a convertible one, too.
  • Special infant car seat. A huge waste of money. Most parents use them longer than it’s safe too (my baby outgrew his by 4 months), and again you can’t leave the baby in them outside of the car so they don’t “help keep baby asleep” at all.
  • Play yard. Ours has been useful for when I’m vending at the farmer’s market but I never use it at home.

Bedtime

  • Crib mobile.
  • Crib bumper. Not safe until the baby is almost 9 months, at which point it’s not necessary.
  • Teething guards for the crib. Cribs have to meet strict safety standards – your baby won’t ingest anything dangerous.
  • Pillows. Babies can’t use them until about 9 months and the fire retardants in them make them undesirable even then. Your baby really won’t care.
  • Extra blankets (unless you don’t have easy access to a washing machine. Then you want LOTS of extras).
  • Crib skirt.
  • Noise machine. Put on the radio or a fan if it’s a big deal but we didn’t need to do anything special.

Playtime and Learning

  • Extra toys
  • Anything electronic or noisemaking. These things will just irritate you when you’ve had 3 hours of sleep and the same song has played 265 times over.
  • Exersaucer
  • Walker (my doctor actually told me these were dangerous)
  • Play gym

Safety and Healthcare

  • Gas drops

This is part three in raising a zero waste family.

Part One: The Zero Waste Baby

Part Two: What We Actually Needed for Baby

Part Three: What We Didn’t Need

Preparing for Parenthood: The Zero Waste Baby

Zero Waste Baby NeedsI’m having a baby in December, and as our lifestyle has transitioned to zero waste and minimalist living, it’s just as important for that lifestyle to continue with us as our family changes. This is my first child, but I cared for my younger siblings for years as well as did daycare for a variety of families.

There are lots of cool gadgets out there for babies and young children. But very little of it is necessary, and some of it is straight up ridiculous.

Given my family’s tight budget and our commitment to reduce consumption in all areas of our lives, we’re sticking with the minimum. Lots of this has been gifted to us by family and upon our baby shower we’re probably going to receive more. I’ve also perused Facebook classifieds, craigslist and Freecycle for many free items. I encourage you to do this if you have the time or if you’re on a tight budget.

Household Changes

  • Water filter for sink
  • Filtering shower head and bath faucet
  • Waterproof mattress cover (for my mattress)
  • Cotton sheets (for my mattress)
  • Outlet covers
  • Dog bed (because we’re co-sleeping in the beginning and the dog can’t sleep on the bed anymore…)
  • CO and radon detector
  • Fabric shower curtain
  • If you haven’t already switched, get all the plastic out of your kitchen and switch to:
    • Bamboo cutting boards
    • Cast iron or 304 Steel cookware
    • Ceramic or cast iron bakeware

Baby Bedding

  • Crib or convertible bassinet (Convertible is better!!) with matress
  • Cotton sheets for crib (x2)
  • Homemade crib quilt
  • Light receiving blankets (x4)

Bathtime

  • Cotton undyed towels (x2)
  • Cotton undyed wash cloths (x8)
  • Baby grooming kit
    • Soft hair brush
    • Infant nail clippers
    • Snot sucker
  • Baby mild castille soap
  • Gentle baby lotion (you can make your own if you’re ambitious)

Diaper Changing

  • 20 cloth diapers
  • Homemade diaper rash balm
  • Diaper pins (steel; x4 sets)
  • Reuseable wipes, in a homemade solution, in a reuseable container
  • Waterproof diaper covers (x8)
  • Dirty diaper container and reusable liner (x2)

Clothes

  • Onesies (x16)
  • Socks or booties (x8)
  • Coming home outfit <3
  • Swimsuit
  • Scratch-proof mittens
  • A hat
  • leggings/pants (x16)
  • Pajamas (Light; x8)
  • Pajamas (Heavy; x8)
  • Swaddle wrap (x2)
  • Dirty clothes hamper

Feeding

  • Burp clothes (x8)
  • Glass bottles (x3)
  • Bottle brush
  • Breast pump
  • Freezer storage for pumped milk
  • Bibs (x3)
  • Highchair or seat with support

Misc. Needs

  • Moby wrap carrier (make this myself)
  • Stroller
  • Car seat
  • “Diaper Bag” (A bag that accommodates my normal purse items and baby needs when travelling)
  • Baby thermometer (I suggest the pacifier ones)
  • Baby book (if you’re nerdy like that…)
  • Developmentally appropriate toys (not very many are necessary – my niece’s favorite toy is a red rubber spatula)
  • Books (because even infants enjoy stories)
  • Baby monitor (for when you’re getting it on in the living room while the baby snoozes 😉 )

Parent Needs

  • Nursing bras (x8)
  • Nursing cover (make this myself)
  • Reuseable nursing pads (x16)
  • Scheduled dates (and gift cards if you can afford it) for after baby

I hope this was helpful! If I’ve left anything out, please let me know. Also it’s worth mentioning that I won’t be stocking up ahead of time on clothing and we have a washer and dryer. If you don’t have access to a washer and dryer and aren’t planning on hand-washing poopy diapers this list might be very different for you.

What did you need for your first baby?

This is part one in a series on raising Zero Waste children.

Part One: The Zero Waste Baby

Part Two: What We Actually Needed for Baby

Part Three: What We Didn’t Need